Sunday, May 29, 2011


Now with the previous note there arises another question in the workshop, when I tell them that it is your life and you need to think where you are taking it. Everyone has one question with a face that is like they want to eat me up. The question is how to cope with the circumstances which we have in life. There are no dreams in our society, parents, teachers, friends, they all influence our dreams and slowly we start believing that whatever they have told is our dream as well. We take up a profession which is acceptable to all of them, even if it is not to us. Well I am really thankful to Indian cinema that it at last threw some light on this topic, although cinema is cinema and you cant compare it to real life. I agree to this that Indian society and youth is driven by half lived and completed dreams of parents. Whatever the parents were not able to achieve in their lives they want their kids to achieve that. There is nothing wrong in a parent seeing and thinking about that. You can always do that, every parent loves their kid and they want the best for them, and believe me every kid should get the best, the thinking needs to go into, whether what the parents are deciding for the kid, the kid will be able to give his best into that or not. We as an individual are here in this world to do a unique thing, this was said years back in our own manuscripts and books which are really close to our heart like gita. There are kaurvas, pandavs, and rest all present in this world, and it is not that lord has not decided good for anyone of them. We all will have our share of being the king and also facing the troubles within this life. It depends upon us what we want our kids to be. If we want them to be pandavs, then we need to suffer with them in the starting and face the world so that they can come out as winners in the end and live a happy life thereafter. A parent can withstand a kid till he has the capacity to take care of him, those are like early 30 years to life. We need to give a full freedom to choose them as to which career they want to pursue and then support them in doing that. If you want your kids to be kauravs, who at start might live a luxurious life and at the end crib about their parents for not allowing them to choose what they wanted to choose, living a luxurious life doen’t necessarily means that the person is living a happy life. The more the luxury the more people tend to go towards things which are not good for life and health. We need to understand one thing as a parent that is god has given us a chance to become himself when he gives us a kid, we need to give direction and just watch the kid, not that we force him to do things. God just shows you path, he even motivates you, he is always there when you need him down and out, but he never pressures us to do something, and he never comes and does something for us. He did not do it for his best buddy arjuna, he just showed him path and made him fight his battle. Respect the godhead which is provided to you by the lord when he blesses us with a child.


As a NLP coach it was my 30th training and in all of them there was one similar question that how come just thinking about something all the time makes us that person. I have answered this question so many times during all the workshops, to students, corporate world CEOs, and management guys, that now I feel that knowing so much about management and other things for such a long time, how can they forget one thing that is even the best of the architectural monuments in the world were once conceived and drawn as a mental picture only. If you cannot frame or make a mental picture how can you really bring that thing to life. Even a mother who is pregnant is shown some nice pictures of cute babies or godhead so that she start conceiving those pictures in her mind and a delivers a beautiful baby, such is the power of your subconscious. If this power can affect a baby who has not come to this world, think of how much it will affect him once he is there in this world. All the dreams become reality one day, whatever you conceive you give birth to that. If you cannot conceive or imagine how possibly can one become the parent of a new life which he or she wants to live. If I want to achieve success in life, I first need to think of the life I want as a successful person. It might not have the materialist things into it, still I should imagine what sort of a person I want to be. How will I walk, my successful life through. Success is again a dream which is realized by those who first see it and then take action towards it. Every player in this world first sees what and how he will be playing on the field then only he can transform that thing on the field. If you practice a shot thousand times in your brain you will play it on the field with the ease the way we drive our car subconsciously without even thinking of when to press break and when to change gears.

Tuesday, March 8, 2011

second one

If we really want to do well and be content in our lives and we also need to spend a peaceful life. We need to have a rendezvous with our Krishna as soon as possible. We should know that it is our duty to improve the quality of our lives so that the quality of our environment improves. To do this rendezvous we again go and find someone else, a guru, coach, trainer, spiritual speaker, as if they could arrange one. It is not possible, otherwise the amount of literature written to improve the quality of human life could have done it by now.

The number of books written and read throughout the world, and number of speakers and coaches available could have changed the lives by now. Nobody can do it. The reason being the one who is training is also in a misconception that he has fully awaken his Krishna and he starts giving lecture to all the rest thinking he has the power to change the course of life as Krishna did for arjuna. In this we forget one thing, he is present in all of us. If the person we are following can awaken it a bit why cant we. God himself said in all the possible religions that I am present within you. What does that mean? This means that we are within ourselves gods, who can make or break destiny. Yes, some of the powers are not with us, that of life and death. Rest whatever we do after coming into this world is in our hands and we can control it if not more than atleast by 80%.

Monday, February 21, 2011

first one

Somewhere inside all of us are dreamers. We cant help but want and dream and desire. It comes naturally to us. It’s a part of who we are, deep in our bones, and it has taken our species from living in caves and huts to exploring moon We dream and we want to fulfil our dreams. We want to unlock ways to realize our dreams.
A great writer and thinker T.E Lawrence of Arabia wrote “All people dream, but not all equally. Those who dream by night in the dusty recess of their minds wake in the day to find it was vanity; but the dreamers of the day are dangerous, for they may act their dreams with open eyes, to make them possible.”
Motivation and motivational speakers, all of them they will come, tell you some stories of great leaders and thinkers, and successful people. We all hear them, visualize the situations, and feel the pain and success of those people, and we are motivated for that particular moment. This moment might go on for two days to two weeks and then in our busy schedule we tend to forget that. What is it that can actually motivate us 24 hours a day. That particular motivation is always with us lying inside us we need to distinguish it. There are two types of motivation towards and away from. Towards is what you want, and away from is what you do not want.

I have also attended my seminars, heard a lot of people telling about their success stories which were full of failures (Feedbacks), and how they all got through them. I just felt one thing that if we really start chasing what we want it is bound to come to us. Like shahrukh khan says, tujhe itni shiddat se pane ki chahat ki, hai ki har zaare ne hume milane ki saazish ki hain. It is just one thing in the end that matters, What exactly you want. It is always about that. If we do not know what we want we will never be able to achieve it.

I was listening to one talk from Steve Jobs, and in it he says that we need to be hungry and foolish to achieve things in our life. That to me means that we need to be always keep asking and looking for things in and around us to actually know, what is the thing which is enticing us so much that we can do anything to get that? Like a child we need to cry, crave, do any tantrum to bring that thing to us. Even if every body around us feels it is not good for us, but the child knows what he wants. Once we get it the satisfaction level is incomparable. Following dreams is one term which I have read and heard so many times that it always makes me think what exactly this means. Following dreams is not just thinking, it is rather doing the action keeping in mind where exactly we want to go. Our biggest barrier which comes in between this is our conscious mind or the so called brain. It always keeps us giving hints that there are probably so many risks involved in reaching the point where we want to reach, ultimately what matters is how much we can keep that mind quiet. We have so much to think in a day, how much of it is towards the dream we are following. We waste most of our time thinking about the things which are of no use to us. One thing is for sure one day we have to leave this place and go, so why not just keep doing what we actually want instead of just thinking about other what they want us to do. Listening to our own self is one thing which we do the least and that is the think which needs to be done the most. We have our fears for sure, as humans it is mandatory for us that we fear something in our life, but if we have to fear lets fear what if I do not reach my dreams. Or what if I am not able to find why I am here on earth. Why I am blessed with this life and what I have to do with it.

People who are successful and who are not only have one difference, spending the time with themselves instead thinking of thinking about others. I have not met too many great people personally in my life, at the same time yes I have read a lot about them. They all share one thing they had clear goals and they had the courage to follow them instead of what people were thinking about them at that time. Every invention or every success is a piece of joke for people when you start that, later on it becomes a milestone. If we start walking on a stranded road, which nobody knows will lead where, definitely people will tell us it is not the right path. Those who listen to them never make it big, reason being till the time you do not start on a new path, how you are going to know where it is going. The path less traveled always leads to success and the path on which everybody is walking will only lead to what has already been achieved or identified. There is no logic behind this, and there cannot be. We cannot logically put what we dream of.

When we see a dream at night and when we get up we cannot remember it word by word reason being the thing which we see are there with us, but we have this logically mind which deletes the information which it thinks was not possible or is of no relevance with that incident. Since a long time, great thinkers, leaders, gurus, and even sometimes our scriptures have been saying this thing to us very clearly that whatever we are thinking as our potential is just the path which we have traveled and we have known about us. There is so much which is hidden and it has to be explored. We all are dreamers and we want our dreams to be fulfilled and then we can happily say that we have excelled in our lives. We all want to feel that extraordinary feeling of being important and be able to make a difference in this society. We all have our own vision of the quality of the life we want to live and we do our best to what we think to achieve that quality of life. What we forget is that we have much more potential and power than what we are utilizing right now. We are capable of reaching much more heights than what we have decided for us.
Dreams are nothing but what our subconscious tells us about our potentials and what we can achieve. To be what you want to be you have to come out of the conscious and let free your mind to decide what he wants to achieve. Believe me our brain is so trained to decide what is good for us that it will never decide anything which is not good for us. This is why whatever you dream is possible to achieve. Just think! You become what you think about most of the time. Your outer world eventually corresponds to your inner world. And since only you can decide what it is you think about, you are the person who determines what happens to you in life.

The more you like yourself, the higher goals and standards you set for yourself. The more you like yourself, the greater is your confidence in your ability to succeed, and the more likely you are to persist in the face of adversity. The more you like yourself, the more others will like you and the more open they will be to buying from you and recommending you to their friends. Here is an important parallel. Mental fitness is very much like physical fitness. If you do certain physical exercises each day, you will eventually become very fit physically. By the same token, if you do certain mental exercises every day, you will soon become very fit mentally. You will develop high levels of self-esteem, self-confidence and a positive mental attitude.

I would like to ask a question for all of you, what does another epic GITA tells you about life. It is said that gita sar is you do your work with all the effort and god will decide the result. Now how true that is. The actual meaning of that thing is that when you start working with full efficiency for anything in your life you will achieve the outcome which you want.

You become what you think about and what you want. We all are doing so much work in this world what is the final motive behind all this. Why do we work? We work for happiness, whatever we do in this world we do it for one selfish reason behind that and that is self happiness. Now this selfish reason is what we want to achieve out of our life.